Speak Life + Live Lovingly

We’ve stayed quiet for quite some time about this… trying to mull over words, choose the right ones, lay them before the Lord and seek His heart on what’s weighing ours down.  Please hear our hearts before reading through this…

This is not a debate on what was behind an attack, or words, or a political party.  This is a discussion on how we treat people.  That’s it.  

Sometimes when things come through in the news I just shrug them off because really, truth seems so relative these days.  There are other times, however, that I genuinely cannot believe something could even be pretended to be true.  Like the comments regarding partial birth abortion, or Illinois’ sweeping vote to allow abortion at any stage and for any reason.  Or when there has been yet another unprovoked attack on a black life.  It’s mind blowing to me how we can veto any life and how far away we are getting from determining what life is, and whose life matters.

The same can be said for the most recent comments at a NC rally, in which protestors loudly and proudly proclaimed “Send them back.”

There is indeed a lot of speaking up, but unfortunately it’s the hateful kind of speaking up.  It’s the defending our position kind of speaking up.  Defending our privilege.  The alternative that we see to speaking up is a remaining silent.  It seems that now more than ever, silence and turning our heads in ignorance is what is killing millions of humans every year.  Literally, statistically, at our borders, our veterans, people on welfare, and people in abortion clinics.  

Whether or not we agree on the politics of our opposing party, the larger problem lies in the fact that people in our country, in 2019, have the mindset that “they” - those with different ideas and different backgrounds than us - don’t belong here.  In a country founded on swinging wide the doors, there is still a sweeping sentiment that “they” are an inconvenience.  

To every Bible Believing Christian that is fighting for life, please hear me loud and clear…..regardless of which life is at stake - we should be moved to the point of speaking up instead of turning a blind eye and remaining silent.  

Send them back is not ok.

Racism is not ok.

White privilege is not ok.

People are people are people are people.

Before getting behind the statement, “send them back,” we must be willing to open our doors.

Before defending the atrocity of immigration camps in the name of securing our borders, we (the Church) must be willing to come to their aid.

Before falling back on the fact that one entered illegally, we must and should be doing everything we can to help them become rightful citizens.

Before turning the TV off and shrugging our shoulders, we must be willing to speak up and live lovingly.  

Before turning a blind eye to the horrific words slammed towards a minority, we must recognize and take to heart that words have the ability to make or break someone!  


There is life and death in the power of the tongue, Proverbs 18:21

For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, Matthew 12:34

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life, Proverbs 4:23

The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence, Proverbs 10:11

Oh that we might recognize that the words, “send them back” are just not ok.  Nor are any words that are hateful, isolating, rooted in pride or privilege or fear that in turn are used to strike fear, to isolate, or condemn another.  If we could just put the period there instead of saying including a “…but….” to defend our position.

Sweet and wonderful brothers and sisters in Christ, might I implore, that if we, the Church at large, are wanting to see a decrease in the animosity and racist divide in our country, we have to make a willing and direct choice to go out of our comfort zone and be a bridge - through our speech and our actions.  The government was never founded to replace or replicate the call of the Church in caring for widows and orphans.  It was never founded to fund the care and well being of people looking for a safe place.  God actually saw the holes that the government would not fill and He had a beautiful and remarkable plan in place that would position Christians far and wide to be the hands and feet of Jesus meeting the needs of those seeking refuge.  We cannot rely on the government to act like Christ.  We ourselves must be willing to roll up our sleeves and do the work.  We must also be willing to lay aside our pride and speak up on behalf of every people.  This is our shot!  This is our chance!


Being a bridge, or a catalyst means going to and facilitating a Multicultural church (as in hiring people who look different from ourselves and each other to be on staff and in lead positions).  It means living in a multi-ethnic neighborhood.  Choosing schools that might be outside of our socioeconomic status.  Asking our friends who are of different races and backgrounds than us “what am I unknowingly doing that feels like an attack on your very being or makes you feel unseen?  What are things that I say and do that are offensive?”  It means looking around and recognizing that if the only non-white people in your life are adopted, it might be high time for a change in pace.  It means saying I’m sorry to the person you just offended when you told them their blended family on the elevator was so beautiful - as if our nod to diversity was checked off for the day.  Because for every decision we make based on white privilege, we are just a bunch of words with very little action behind them and living in complete contradiction to the gospel.  

Can we do both?  Speak life while also living lovingly?

John 13:35, By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.

Proverb 16:24, Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.


It is possible to be pro-every-life.  Not just the unborn.  It’s possible to uphold the laws of our country while also treating people humanely and tending to their needs.  And I think as believers, that is our highest call.  To be a living breathing life-giving example of heaven on earth — which is not just made up of white people.

xo, 

a really white girl, raised in a really white and southern world, transplanted to Chicagoland and faced with the reality that we’ve been doing it all wrong.