Daring to Dream
What do you love to do? If you had a day to yourself to relax, how would you spend it? What are your favorite restaurants? Favorite places to travel? If you could spend a day with anyone, who would it be?
I'm not sure where you find yourselves in this season of life, but for a lot of women we’ve forgotten that we were actually human beings before our career took over or becoming a mother. Or maybe dreaming was never something you set about to do. Were you ever encouraged to dream as a child? Did something happen that robbed you of the freedom to think big and outside the box? Were you told that you have intrinsic worth and value in the Lord’s eyes, something only you can offer to others?
One of [many] favorite lessons I've learned from the incredibly gifted and kind Dr. Kathy Koch is that our children need to hear daily that were created on purpose, with purpose, for purpose. Can I let you in on a secret? I need to hear it myself. Not just to oh, parent my kids with that powerful narrative and truth regularly. But I needed to let that sink down deep to my bones. That I have purpose. I was created with purpose. I am for a purpose. And while feeding babies, educating kids, training them up in the way they should go, maintaining some sort of sanity for my husband and I, and serving in our local church is a HUGE PART of my purpose and the season that I am in right now, this season doesn't mean dreams and desires get thrown out the window. It doesn't mean that the unique ways God has crafted my heart, and the amazing talents He's gifted me with are to be shoved to the side. Sure, life will come in waves and our time will need to be wisely incremented towards that which is most important. And yes, those field trip forms are necessary. As is your full time job if outside the home. Or inside. Wildly important. Wellness visits with the doctor. Caring for your neighbor or elderly parent, making meals for college students, finalizing Sunday School plans and lesson plans and organizing fun runs at school, they're all important. But can I share with you a powerful and life changing truth?
You. Are. Important. Not your role, or your title, or your status. Just YOU.
Your heart matters.
Your desires matter.
That big idea you were told would never work out, it matters.
That dream you have to create beauty in only a way you can, it is important.
Those days of dancing long ago - they're not silly or useless.
“The Lord your God is with you,
the Mighty Warrior who saves.
He will take great delight in you;
in his love he will no longer rebuke you,
but will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
The day you were born is evidence enough that the Lord purposed you for such a time as this. Not to sit on the sidelines watching everyone else pursue their hearts’ desires, but to actively pursue Him and seek His calling on your life.
However, before we can begin to dream and looking for ways and opportunities to chase down that big idea or share your uniqueness with the world, we must first and foremost remember our identity. Our striving, growing, developing will have nothing to stand on apart from having a true grasp and understanding that you are saved by grace, through Jesus Christ, being called an heir and child of God, being given the task to bring His kingdom here, SO THAT others might be invited to taste and see that God is good (psalm 34:8). The end goal of everything we do must always be to bring honor, glory and better understanding due HIS name.
So what does that look like when 1001 other things are tugging for your time, attention, and energy? How does this play out? How does the "you matter" and "your purpose" narrative weave it's way into your ever so tight schedule?
Proverbs 29:18 cautions “Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint; but blessed is the one who heeds wisdom’s instruction.”. Ask God for the what and the how and the when. Those lofty dreams and ideas that have been put on the shelf of "never"? Or how about the shelf that seems empty because something long ago paralyzed your ability and reasoning to dream? He so desires to show more of Himself to you, so that His goodness might be known in new and fresh ways to those around you. Seek Him.
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened to you. For whoever asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!”
Think back to the things you loved and enjoyed prior to making amazing children, and find out how to do them. Take an art class, schedule a monthly dinner with friends, serve at the local soup kitchen, train for that 5k, pick an afternoon (or 3) a week devoted to curling up and reading, take a cooking class, sign up for a writing seminar, plan a yearly girls weekend, go back to college, learn how to garden, go rock that adult hip hop class, and on and on and on. You can trust the complete narrative of the Bible that you were created by a creative God and find ways to enjoy the way He created you - that did not go away once you had kids, or started a new job or taking care of an elderly parent.
Make time for you and stop feeling guilty about it. It is good and right and pleasing to carve out time to worship the Lord through our time and talents. Jesus sought time for rest and to be present with the Father. God, the creator and giver of rest, said rest is good and necessary. So instead of waiting until you’re at a breaking point to take time away to pursue and experience the Lord through your God given passions, make it an important part of your week/month.
Take time alone this week or month and set aside time to begin daring to dream. You were created to make a difference and bring His light into a fallen place!
“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:10
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